Weed Out What Doesn't Serve You

MJ Wynn
May 19
3 min read

Updated: May 25

Hey Love 🌙

I'm sitting here in my pajamas at midnight because I literally cannot stop thinking about what happened recently. You know those moments that just light up your whole chest?

Yeah. That's where I'm at right now.

Watching a Queen Claim Her Crown 👑

So here's the thing - my girlfriend (my absolute powerhouse of a partner) had been stuck in this soul-crushing work situation. Like, genuinely toxic. The kind where management treats you like you're just another number, where they don't even pretend to value you as a human being. And like so many of us do, she stayed. Kept showing up. Kept hoping things would change.

Then last week, during yet another frustrating conversation, her boss had the audacity to say, "Is this your resignation?" and something just... shifted.

In that moment, she realized she didn't have to keep shrinking herself to fit into their box. Didn't have to keep trading her peace for a paycheque. This amazing woman, who deserves nothing but respect and recognition, finally said enough.

So she looked them in the eye and said, "Yeah. It is." Just like that. Walked out with her head high, no drama needed. Just a queen making a quiet decision to choose herself.

And get this - two days later, she already has a new job lined up. TWO. DAYS. Because talent like hers doesn't stay on the market long.

If that's not main character energy, I honestly don't know what is. She's literally out here writing her own success story and I'm here for every single word of it.

The Myth of Being "Stuck"

It's got me thinking about how we convince ourselves we don't have options. How many times have we all stayed somewhere we've outgrown because leaving felt scarier than staying? How often do we settle for crumbs because we're afraid nobody else will offer us the whole cake?

We get trapped in jobs, relationships, cities, patterns - not because we can't leave, but because fear tells us we can't.

Watching her walk away today reminded me: being stuck is just a story we tell ourselves. It's never the whole truth.

You can always leave. You can always start fresh. You can always, always choose yourself.

Choosing Yourself Isn't Selfish, It's Survival

Here's what nobody tells you: walking away from something that's hurting you isn't selfish or dramatic. It's literally survival. It's believing you deserve better, even when "better" is just a fuzzy idea in the distance.

My girlfriend could've stayed. Could've kept draining herself daily. Could've bought into the "that's just how it is" narrative.

But she didn't. She chose herself instead. Like the absolute legend she is.

And god, what a reminder that we're allowed to walk away from people and places that don't see our light.

No explanation needed. No permission required.

I'm Just... So Proud

I can't stop smiling thinking about it.

Not just because she landed on her feet (though like... YES QUEEN, SHOW THEM HOW IT'S DONE), but because she remembered her worth when others tried to make her forget it.

And honestly? I'm proud of all of us. Every single time we choose ourselves. Even when it's messy. Even when it's terrifying. Even when we're free-falling for a minute there.

That's the real power move. That's the real growth.

So if you're somewhere right now feeling stuck, questioning yourself, wondering if it's worth the risk to leave?

Let this be your sign: it always, always is.

You're never truly stuck. You're just standing in a room you can walk out of whenever you're ready.

And when you do?

Baby, there's a whole world out here waiting for you.

Love you. Talk soon. 💋

🌷 Signed, MJ