Stay Single Until You Love Someone This Way

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We’ve all heard it: “Wait for the right person.” The advice is everywhere, plastered across Instagram, whispered in conversations with friends, and woven into the lyrics of every love song. But honestly? Stay single until you love someone so deeply, it shifts something inside of you. I’m talking about the kind of love that makes you forget all those little checklists we tend to keep. You stop expecting them to return every favor you do for them or match every ounce of effort you put in. The only expectation left? Knowing that they’re okay. That’s it. That’s the love worth waiting for.

Because when you love someone like this, it’s different. You stop counting. You’re not mentally logging how many times they’ve texted first or whether they’ve met your emotional “to-do list” for the day. You stop looking for reciprocation in the little things. Instead, the only thing that matters is their happiness. Your love for them becomes about making sure they’re good, that they’re cared for, that they feel seen and supported. It’s wild how freeing that is.

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It sounds counterintuitive at first, right? This idea of loving without needing anything in return. Almost like you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

But when you love someone in this way, it’s not about what you’re getting.

It’s about what you’re giving, and how effortlessly that love flows from you. It's not transactional, it's organic. You’re not keeping score because, frankly, there’s no score to keep.

And here’s the kicker: when you’re not expecting anything back, the little things they do give you—whether it’s their time, their laughter, or just their presence—feel like treasures. Like, you’re not entitled to it, but it’s still given freely, and that’s where the magic is.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you should be a doormat or ignore your needs. There’s a difference between selfless love and losing yourself in someone else.

When you’ve learned to love yourself fully, to live your life in a way that feels complete and whole, loving someone else this way feels less like sacrifice and more like an expansion of your own joy. You’re already solid, and this love just makes everything richer.

It’s not always easy, though. I think sometimes we get so caught up in the idea of a relationship being this 50/50 split, where everything is equal and fair, that we forget love is messy. Some days it’ll be 90/10, and that’s okay. There will be days where they need more from you, and you’ll give it without hesitation. Because their peace? Their well-being? It matters to you as much as your own. Maybe even more.

Until you find that kind of love, though? Stay single. Seriously. Learn about yourself in ways that make your company feel like a gift, not something you need to trade in for validation. Build a life that makes you happy on your own, so when you do meet that person who loves you back in this deep, effortless way, it won’t feel like they’re completing you.

Instead, they’ll be someone who makes the journey even better. A bonus, not a necessity.

So yeah, stay single until you love someone that way—so deeply that your only wish is for their happiness, their peace, their joy. Because when you find it, trust me, it’s worth the wait.

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🌷  Signed, MJ